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1 tip to go from ordinary to extraordinary

I want to share a quick tip with you today that I believe can help you in every area of your life. I recently started asking the question, “What do extraordinary people do to go from ordinary to extra-ordinary?

What I noticed is extraordinary people come from every background and culture on earth. The majority of extraordinary people have more in common with ordinary people than they do with each other. Some grow up with both parents in the house some don’t. Some grown up in upper class America some in the slums of Africa. Some are given all the resources some fight for any resources. Some are healthy some are quadriplegics in constant pain. The point I want to make is extraordinary men and women come from every walk of life. It is not where you come from that determines if you make it or not, it is what you do. The opportunity to be extraordinary is given to everyone.

Every person who has ever impacted this world, by influencing or making a difference in the life of even one person, shares similar habits. This post is about one of these shared habits.

We make thousands of choices everyday and over time these choices become habits. These habits then shape and influence the majority of our lives.

Og Mandino wrote in ,The Greatest Salesman in the World, “I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits, and the past deeds of my life have now charted a course that threatens to imprison my future.”

This is an example of the wrong choices complied over years. The good news is, right choices (habits) accumulated over years can chart a course that will carry you further than you ever dreamed possible.

No matter how hard we study or how much we know without this habit you will not get anywhere. It is more important than any college degree. (That might get me in trouble)
Every entrepreneur has it and every business needs it.

It is the habit of TAKING ACTION.

Knowing is great but if you don’t develop the habit of taking action you will never DO anything. I know how to make a difference in my community but if I don’t start doing it my knowledge is pointless. Look at the extraordinary men and women who made America what it is today.

Our founding fathers developed the habit of taking action. Entrepreneurs like Edison and Bell took consistent action towards what they believed. Lincoln when it wasn’t the popular thing to do took action. MLK, JFK, Helen Keller, Steve Jobs all became american heroes by taking consistent action.

When given an opportunity to make a decision most people freeze. The decision not to act has much greater consequences than merely making the wrong choice.

Now, if you decide to say to yourself ,I’ll start doing things different tomorrow, that’s one of the normal signals of self-delusion; a person who can’t take action today to change something that needs to be changed won’t likely do it tomorrow either, and each day that goes by, the stronger the habit becomes.

Extraordinary people make decisions quickly and change their mind slowly and they take action. Ordinary people make decisions slowly change their minds quickly. Abe Lincoln said, “Good things may come to those who wait but only things left by those who hustle.”

Now, is the only time God give us to act. We can’t act in yesterday for it has come and gone. We can’t act in tomorrow because its always a day away. We can only change now. And when tomorrow gets here it will change its name to Now.
So don’t wait start taking action and watch your entire world change. Who knows maybe one day it will be your name that everyone uses to define EXTRAORDINARY.

Be blessed.

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Kid Wisdom You Need to Listen to…Now

Kid Wisdom You Need to Listen to…Now.

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Time for a change?

Do you hate your job?
Are you sick and tired of your circumstances?
What about your relationships?

You can change any of these things and for a while the new job may create new circumstances and the new relationship may creat momentary joy but before long the scent of the old relationship the old job the old circumstances comes back.

That’s at least how the story played out for me. I would run from things that I didn’t want thinking that it was the circumstances that made me miserable. But after a while the old circumstances came back. What I realized was, I’m the common denominator. I changed my circumstances but I carried me with me.

I met a great man named Ron Reynolds who said it like this, “For things to change you have to change.”
Our character, the way we act and think and the choices we make all come from a lifetime of choices that form our habits.
Og Mandino wrote in ,The Greatest Salesman in the World, “I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits, and the past deeds of my life have now charted a course that threatens to imprison my future.”
In the beginning, we select our own habits, and in the end, we are enslaved by them, so if you want some better results, start doing something tangible about it.

Start working harder on yourself than you do on anything else. Start building new disciplines, new habits. Then buckle up because everything is going to change.

2 years ago I knew for things to change I had to change, and I did. Now I stand here pinching myself as my wife and I look out over the horizon of what is possible in the next 2 years because we couldn’t believe when we started that being work from home parents and business owners who are completely debt free at 25 was possible. But here we are just a few months away from me coming home and taking the next Impossible step. And here is the good news, if it can happen for us, it can happen for anyone. Discipline and building new habits suck while you are doing it but for those who persevere, they will be blessed.

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The old road to Success leads to a dead end now.

I used to believe life was about successful careers and having more stuff but now I know life is about the people we get to do stuff with and for.

In school we were taught that happiness and stuff were tied together and that to get the best stuff we had to get to the top of the latter in corporate America. They said, “the one with the most stuff wins.” (They didn’t really say that exactly but everything that we were taught for 12 years revolved around this one idea, That success was memorizing more than your friend, making more money than your neighbor, having more toys than the guy down the road, that whoever got to the top won. etc.)

The sad thing is that there are a lot of people who follow the steps that I learned in school. These steps that are supposed to lead to success and they reached the top of the latter and were still bored out of their minds or miserable.

Then on the other hand you have people who don’t really follow the rules that we grew up with. Who are having a blast, who love life and are killing it in the market place.

There is only one thing that I have seen consistently through 250 books and 400+ interviews with people and it is this.
There is an underlying theme in every persons life. Leadership expert Simeon Sinek explains it beautifully “people don’t care what you do they care why you do it.”
The men and women who are making an impact on the world, who are changing their city’s and government and schools. The ones who are different, who don’t settle for good when great is available, who challenge the status quo and make the people around them a little uncomfortable. The people who enjoy life and do the things that make the rest of us envy them. Those people, they know WHY they are doing what they do. And that WHY, 99.9% of the time has 0 to do with money or stuff or success.

If your reason for going to college is to get a degree so that you can get a good paying safe job that will get you stuff or a social status then you are falling into a trap that will leave you miserable and unfulfilled 5 year from now.
If on the other hand, you want to do something that matters, something risky and different. Something that impacts people’s lives and leaves this world better than where it was when you got here then you will live a rewarding and fulfilled life.

I used to think life was about stuff like success but now I know it’s about joining together with people just like you and me and making a difference for others.

Now I have relationships that are so much better than anything I could have imagined before. I believe a large part of that is because now
PEOPLE ARE NOT THE WAY TO GET WHAT WE WANT, THEY ARE WHAT WE WANT.

There is a new era arriving. One that is built on community and relationships. One that feeds on connection not stuff. How do I know? Because I have looked at Facebook. People all over the world are bored and tired of the way things have always been. That’s why while at work they check in on everybody, or while on a date they are tweeting or posting on Instagram. Why do you think Facebook and twitter and others like them are so successful? Because people want to be apart of something bigger than themselves. They want to be connected. They want to make a difference. They have something to live for and as more and more people find their WHY this new connection driven economy will begin to change everything. We can see the change beginning with people kicking the old way of doing things out and not only living more fulfilling lives but also killing it in the market place. Look at Steve Jobs at Apple or Blake Mycoskie and Toms shoes company for example.

The great news about this new era is that everyone now starts on an even playing field. It no longer matters who you know. You no longer have to wait on someone to pick you. Now the opportunity that we have is to pick ourselves. We have the opportunity here to connect with one another and make a difference in the lives around us if we are willing to put in the emotional labor of making our WHY about someone other than ourselves.

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When is enough,enough?…

Is it when you dread your alarm clock not because you don’t want to wake up but because you don’t want to go to a place that you hate…
Or when you get that ridiculous comment from your boss…
Or when you miss that birthday…
Or when Christmas morning gets here and your stuck at the office…

Define what’s enough.
What is to far?
Where do you draw the line?

By making that decision you will finally be able to breath and have peace of mind, because this forces your values and actions to line up.

If you have been out of line to long like many of us then maybe it’s time to design an escape route. Don’t quit your job today, instead lets put every once of energy we can into designing a future that you can put your heart and passion into.

I personally knew exactly what I hated and didn’t want in my life anymore but that wasn’t enough to get me out of the career I was in. I had to know what I did want before I was ready to design that life and creat an adequate exit strategy from what I didn’t want.

Start here,
What do you enjoy?
What do you want to do? (Don’t put a job title down that is to narrow and small.)

My list looked like this:
I want to help people.
I want to travel the world with my wife and kids.
I want to do what everyone else says is impossible.
I want to make a difference.
I want to give more than I have ever dreamed of.
I want to put normal (status quo) to death.

There are more than a few careers or businesses that line up with these desires, and those are just the ones that I know of.
The point is there are many more options that meet what you want out of life when you just look at what you want and don’t narrow it down to one specific job title or industry. This greatly increases the odds of the work you choose being one that you are passionate about. One that you can put your heart into. One that never seems like work.

95% of people hate what they do. 95% of people also accept the first job offer they receive that is perceived as any better than their current work. 95% of people when asked what they want can’t give you an answer other than more money. They have dreams but don’t see any way to live those dreams other than winning the lottery, so they accept what they have not believing that what they really want is possible, therefore when asked they just say more money. And after a while most of them don’t even remember what their dreams where in the first place.

Don’t do what the 95% do!

Life is about freedom. Freedom to make choices. Freedom to be with the ones you love. Freedom to do what you love. Freedom to stand out and make a difference. Freedom to pursue our dreams. Life is about more than money and when you can see that freedom is available and it doesn’t cost a million dollars you will start making choices based on your dreams not your circumstances.

I recently read of a young couple who had a dream to sail around the world. They lived within their means, saving money for 4 years. They then bought a sail boat and moved to the beach where they could spend their afternoons on the water training and getting ready for their trip. After 18 months they decided it was time they sold the cars rented out the house, pulled their 3 boys out of school and with $40,000 in the boat, supplies and bank they set sail as a family. 13 months later they pulled back into the dock and sold the boat for $36,000. Total cost of their trip, $4,000 and 13 months. That is crazy. That Is impossible. Everybody said this is nuts that they can’t do it. Did they listen, no. They were not the 95%. They knew exactly what they wanted and they were not going to settle for waiting on retirement or winning the lottery to do it.

What is it that you really want? What freedoms do you want that you don’t currently have?
I always ask myself 3 questions that help me get into action.
What?
Why?
How? (do I get there)

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Why do cheap hotels offer free wifi and why do expensive hotels charge you for it?

Why do cheap hotels offer free wifi and why do expensive hotels charge you for it?

If I build a hotel just to earn a profit then it would only make since to hire cheap labor so that I can turn a greater profit. And because everyone loves New the business will run well for a while. But after a while workers start reflecting their leader and only work to earn a check and as a result service sucks. Which leads to less people coming back. And if service gets to bad then everyone shares how bad their experience was which means even less people show up. Then you have to find a way to get new people in the doors so that you can stay open. Result….

On the other hand if I see a need for a hotel and want to serve the people by providing a great hotel with a great staff that gets paid what they are worth. Then they make sure people have a great experience. Those people will then share how great their experience was and the hotel will always stay full. No matter what price you charge. And if you offer wifi it will be the best wifi on the market, that’s what your customers expect and what you want to give them. So you can charge for it or make it free. It’s really up to you.

It’s nice to throw something in for free because you can and you want to. It’s not so nice when you feel you have to throw something in for free to make up for poor quality or service.

Are you offering free wifi? Why?

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Fear Forgiveness and Going to Far

Is it better to ask for forgiveness or permission?

Is it better to go to far or should we all go to the edge and then take a step back?

The real question is, Do we submit to our fears or overcome them?

I heard fear described once as
f-alse
e-vidence
a-ppearing
r-eal

Fear is that whisper that says “If you say that they will get offended. That is impossible. You can’t do that. Who do you think you are? Don’t give everything, you need something to fall back on if this fails. Etc.”

When these questions come ask yourself this:
What am I believing to be true that isn’t?

It’s like this. If I believe that failure is fatal then I will always fear it. But if I view failure as just another way to learn then I can say it sucks but now I know what not to do.

Falling is a part of life. Hitting the ground hurt but the pain of falling isn’t greater than the joy of running and playing so we learned to walk and then run.

Doing something that matters, something that makes a difference in the lives of others takes courage.
You jump and either fly or fall. No will say its easy. You will have to keep your eye on what it will feel like to finally fly in order to keep going after you fall a few times. You will have to make your mind up and say I will persevere without exception and then one day you will fly.

Then you will join the ranks of those who say “It is not easy but man it is so worth it. It is better than I could have ever imagined.”

You have to risk going to far to go far enough. It’s better to go to far and fly than to play it safe and settle for only dreaming of flying. There are always people who get offended. Ask forgiveness for wasting those people’s time and go share your MSG with everyone else who needs it.

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