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What do you do when you are scared to…

chase your dream?

When you know what you want to do and

what you should do but that devil known as fear shows up?

I have this dream of writing and speaking and helping as many people as I can design a better future

but…(even as I write this fear pops up and says “who do you think you are?” “you cant talk about that everyone will think you are nuts” and about a thousand other vile things.) That is why I have to. When you have a dream it seems like the first and last thing you want to tell everyone about. If you share it then you have to own it. If fear can keep you from stepping up or standing out then it will never have to face the unknown. It can keep you right where you are.

So how do you get through the resistance? You press in. When you feel the resistance say turn and run, press in. Don’t avoid fear use it more like a compass to point you in the direction you should go. Dreams are emotional and there is a lot of emotional labor that will go into you realizing your dream. Emotional labor is uncomfortable and vulnerable and is the kind of thing Fear Hates. So the trick is to do the uncomfortable long enough and with enough passion for it to become a little more comfortable. Enviroment is everything so if you aren’t getting the results that you want look at who you are hanging around. Is the communities that you are a part of pushing you to become more? do more? dream more? If not then find some people that are going for it and you will find that soon you are doing the same.

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Mind control Use it to win in business and relationships

1st rule to winning, don’t beat yourself. How often are we our own worst enemies? I believe the answer to that will surprise you. Today I want to share a few tips on Mind Control… Not the spooky stuff but how to begin controlling your own mind.

Now I don’t believe any of us are our own worst enemy on purpose,  so how do we sabotage  our own work without knowing it?

 

First do this experiment with me

When I say a word what is the first word that comes to mind,

Peanut butter reminds us of________

Jelly

The word dog reminds us of________

Cat

The word red reminds us of________

Rose, car or dress.

Monday morning reminds us of______

Work

Friday reminds us of_______

The weekend

 

These are all triggers and they can either help us or hurt us. If I think of work and the first thought that comes to mind is “I hate that place.” The likelihood of you ever doing exceptional work and getting a promotion or raise drops significantly. Same thing when you think of your boss. (Ouch)

Now I want to take it a step further. What is your first thought when you think of your spouse? “Irritating? I wish they would do this or that? Why do they never do what I want? Etc”

 

Our thoughts shape our attitude. What you think about your neighbor is your attitude towards them. What you think about your spouse is your attitude towards them. Our attitude helps us determine what actions to take, how often we take action and if we are positive or negative about it. And action is the ingredient that determines how our life turns out.

 

Jon Acuff in his book start talks about the voices in our head that whisper lies to us. When we want to do something that matters the voices get loud and tell us we can’t or we aren’t good enough or we don’t have the right background or skill and the list goes on and on. And if we listen to those voices we will never change or do the great work we are capable of. So to silence the voices he says write them down. The big voice seems really small when you put it on paper. But don’t just write it down refute it with the truth.

It looks like this.

 

Spouse (triggers) Uhg I don’t think they will ever change…

That’s a lie. Write it down. Then refute it with truth. All things are possible for those who believe. I sure do love her. He is going to be the man I know he can be. She is a great mother and loves us. Etc.

 

Work (triggers) I don’t think I will ever be successful… Lie

I can learn new skills. I am smart and creative. I can do great work. I just have to find a way and take massive action. The only difference between me and those who are successful is they took Action.

 

Changing your life, circumstances and the results you have been getting seems like magic but it is actually just controlling what you allow yourself to think and dwell on. Anyone can completely change their life because anyone can change their actions by changing their attitude. And anyone can change their attitude by changing their thinking.

What do you think about your job or neighbor or circumstances today? What are your triggers? Your lies? What do you need to start speaking life into today?

 

Do it and every area of your life can start changing today.

 

 

If this has helped you please pass it along.

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Don’t be a zombie… Do something exciting instead

Who are you talking to when you have a conversation with yourself?

Do we all have split personalities? Do we all have a touch of crazy in us or what? I’m ok calling everyone, especially myself, a little crazy.

I have a lot of time by myself during the day at work so these conversations with myself happen regularly. What I found is that I have 2 distinctly separate responses. The first says “that will be awesome go for it.” The second says, “play it safe, remember what’s on the line, you can’t afford to fail.”

One part of me wants to climb, to jump, to make an impact, to challenge the status quo, to create and do something that has never been done, to be wild and adventurous. While this other side wants to play it safe, to stay in my comfort zone, to lay low and avoid failing.

Basically go on an adventure or be a zombie. And not the cool zombies from the thrilled video.

Three years ago a perfect storm hit my life and turned everything upside down. I was ticked. I had listened to the side that said play it safe and these things can’t happen. I had bought into this idea of, be a zombie and don’t risk failure and in 40 years you can wake up and live the life you want. IT DOES NOT WORK. And I thank God every day that it didn’t because I realized in that storm that FAILURE ISN’T FATAL.

Apparently all I needed was to know FAILURE IS JUST AN OPPORTUNITY TO START OVER. Because I immediately took what I was passionate about and set out to make an impact. I touched one persons life and knew, this is the work that will make a difference in the lives of others if I just make the jump and go for it. Something great happens when you jump. Your heart starts beating a little faster your adrenalin starts pumping and there is this excitement about what’s going to happen next because (the plan) just went out the window. It’s like taking your zombie self to skydive and you get up to jump and as soon as you jump you snap out of it FULLY AWAKE. Zombies don’t play or fly so they stay on the plane being boring.

I don’t know about you but when I was a kid I went on these wild adventures. All I needed was a dog a friend or a pocket knife and a 12 hr trip through the woods was going to happen. I remember when I was around 12 or 13 my friend Jake had this great idea to cut through the woods to this old grave yard. I’m not sure if there was a grave yard or not but that didn’t matter to us we were with a friend on an adventure. We couldn’t have been a half mile from his house when we found our adventure for the day. A house that could have been built in the early 1800s. We were in the middle of the woods and the woods were in the middle of this house. Really there was a huge oak that had grown out of the living room floor and straight through the roof. When we saw the old creepy house we knew we had found the story we were looking for. So like all adventures we went in. (What kind of adventure would it have been if we only found the house. Only adults could be boring zombies back then.) We spent a good 2hrs tip toeing around looking at everything, even though I’m sure it was closer to 5min. Then the unexpected happened, the wind blew and the door slammed shut. When my feet hit the ground next I was through the back door and looking over my shoulder for Jake who I think dove out the window, when my face and chest found the old fence that went with the creepy house. Now this adventure had to be told to the rest of our friends on monday, I had the battle scars to prove it was real and we had a great story about how a zombie slammed the door trying to eat us.

When I started ignoring the voice that said “you can’t do that” or “you might fail if I try this”, my heart started beating again and I started doing things that I couldn’t control. I didn’t know what the outcome would be when I started a business, all I knew was I had the exact same feeling I had when I was 12 standing outside that house.

Was I scared? Yes. Was a voice in the back of my head saying don’t do it? Yes. But when I was 12 I was good at ignoring that voice and making the jump anyways and now 12 years later I am good at ignoring that voice again. Was it worth pushing myself out of my comfort zone? I’ll just say the results were greater than anything I could have ever imagined. I not only get to change families lives forever but we get to go on some great adventures along the way. And the best part is we are not zombies anymore.

Once you taste the sweetness of an adventure again it’s hard to settle for the same boring thing everyday. Once you make an impact in someone’s life it becomes contagious you can’t help but do it again.

Life offers everyone the opportunity be extraordinary, to be adventurous and exciting. All it requires of you is to be awake and willing to fail and start again. If you don’t like those options then sign up for zombie indoctrination. I hear they will take anyone with hands and feet.

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1 tip to go from ordinary to extraordinary

I want to share a quick tip with you today that I believe can help you in every area of your life. I recently started asking the question, “What do extraordinary people do to go from ordinary to extra-ordinary?

What I noticed is extraordinary people come from every background and culture on earth. The majority of extraordinary people have more in common with ordinary people than they do with each other. Some grow up with both parents in the house some don’t. Some grown up in upper class America some in the slums of Africa. Some are given all the resources some fight for any resources. Some are healthy some are quadriplegics in constant pain. The point I want to make is extraordinary men and women come from every walk of life. It is not where you come from that determines if you make it or not, it is what you do. The opportunity to be extraordinary is given to everyone.

Every person who has ever impacted this world, by influencing or making a difference in the life of even one person, shares similar habits. This post is about one of these shared habits.

We make thousands of choices everyday and over time these choices become habits. These habits then shape and influence the majority of our lives.

Og Mandino wrote in ,The Greatest Salesman in the World, “I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits, and the past deeds of my life have now charted a course that threatens to imprison my future.”

This is an example of the wrong choices complied over years. The good news is, right choices (habits) accumulated over years can chart a course that will carry you further than you ever dreamed possible.

No matter how hard we study or how much we know without this habit you will not get anywhere. It is more important than any college degree. (That might get me in trouble)
Every entrepreneur has it and every business needs it.

It is the habit of TAKING ACTION.

Knowing is great but if you don’t develop the habit of taking action you will never DO anything. I know how to make a difference in my community but if I don’t start doing it my knowledge is pointless. Look at the extraordinary men and women who made America what it is today.

Our founding fathers developed the habit of taking action. Entrepreneurs like Edison and Bell took consistent action towards what they believed. Lincoln when it wasn’t the popular thing to do took action. MLK, JFK, Helen Keller, Steve Jobs all became american heroes by taking consistent action.

When given an opportunity to make a decision most people freeze. The decision not to act has much greater consequences than merely making the wrong choice.

Now, if you decide to say to yourself ,I’ll start doing things different tomorrow, that’s one of the normal signals of self-delusion; a person who can’t take action today to change something that needs to be changed won’t likely do it tomorrow either, and each day that goes by, the stronger the habit becomes.

Extraordinary people make decisions quickly and change their mind slowly and they take action. Ordinary people make decisions slowly change their minds quickly. Abe Lincoln said, “Good things may come to those who wait but only things left by those who hustle.”

Now, is the only time God give us to act. We can’t act in yesterday for it has come and gone. We can’t act in tomorrow because its always a day away. We can only change now. And when tomorrow gets here it will change its name to Now.
So don’t wait start taking action and watch your entire world change. Who knows maybe one day it will be your name that everyone uses to define EXTRAORDINARY.

Be blessed.

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Time for a change?

Do you hate your job?
Are you sick and tired of your circumstances?
What about your relationships?

You can change any of these things and for a while the new job may create new circumstances and the new relationship may creat momentary joy but before long the scent of the old relationship the old job the old circumstances comes back.

That’s at least how the story played out for me. I would run from things that I didn’t want thinking that it was the circumstances that made me miserable. But after a while the old circumstances came back. What I realized was, I’m the common denominator. I changed my circumstances but I carried me with me.

I met a great man named Ron Reynolds who said it like this, “For things to change you have to change.”
Our character, the way we act and think and the choices we make all come from a lifetime of choices that form our habits.
Og Mandino wrote in ,The Greatest Salesman in the World, “I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits, and the past deeds of my life have now charted a course that threatens to imprison my future.”
In the beginning, we select our own habits, and in the end, we are enslaved by them, so if you want some better results, start doing something tangible about it.

Start working harder on yourself than you do on anything else. Start building new disciplines, new habits. Then buckle up because everything is going to change.

2 years ago I knew for things to change I had to change, and I did. Now I stand here pinching myself as my wife and I look out over the horizon of what is possible in the next 2 years because we couldn’t believe when we started that being work from home parents and business owners who are completely debt free at 25 was possible. But here we are just a few months away from me coming home and taking the next Impossible step. And here is the good news, if it can happen for us, it can happen for anyone. Discipline and building new habits suck while you are doing it but for those who persevere, they will be blessed.

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The old road to Success leads to a dead end now.

I used to believe life was about successful careers and having more stuff but now I know life is about the people we get to do stuff with and for.

In school we were taught that happiness and stuff were tied together and that to get the best stuff we had to get to the top of the latter in corporate America. They said, “the one with the most stuff wins.” (They didn’t really say that exactly but everything that we were taught for 12 years revolved around this one idea, That success was memorizing more than your friend, making more money than your neighbor, having more toys than the guy down the road, that whoever got to the top won. etc.)

The sad thing is that there are a lot of people who follow the steps that I learned in school. These steps that are supposed to lead to success and they reached the top of the latter and were still bored out of their minds or miserable.

Then on the other hand you have people who don’t really follow the rules that we grew up with. Who are having a blast, who love life and are killing it in the market place.

There is only one thing that I have seen consistently through 250 books and 400+ interviews with people and it is this.
There is an underlying theme in every persons life. Leadership expert Simeon Sinek explains it beautifully “people don’t care what you do they care why you do it.”
The men and women who are making an impact on the world, who are changing their city’s and government and schools. The ones who are different, who don’t settle for good when great is available, who challenge the status quo and make the people around them a little uncomfortable. The people who enjoy life and do the things that make the rest of us envy them. Those people, they know WHY they are doing what they do. And that WHY, 99.9% of the time has 0 to do with money or stuff or success.

If your reason for going to college is to get a degree so that you can get a good paying safe job that will get you stuff or a social status then you are falling into a trap that will leave you miserable and unfulfilled 5 year from now.
If on the other hand, you want to do something that matters, something risky and different. Something that impacts people’s lives and leaves this world better than where it was when you got here then you will live a rewarding and fulfilled life.

I used to think life was about stuff like success but now I know it’s about joining together with people just like you and me and making a difference for others.

Now I have relationships that are so much better than anything I could have imagined before. I believe a large part of that is because now
PEOPLE ARE NOT THE WAY TO GET WHAT WE WANT, THEY ARE WHAT WE WANT.

There is a new era arriving. One that is built on community and relationships. One that feeds on connection not stuff. How do I know? Because I have looked at Facebook. People all over the world are bored and tired of the way things have always been. That’s why while at work they check in on everybody, or while on a date they are tweeting or posting on Instagram. Why do you think Facebook and twitter and others like them are so successful? Because people want to be apart of something bigger than themselves. They want to be connected. They want to make a difference. They have something to live for and as more and more people find their WHY this new connection driven economy will begin to change everything. We can see the change beginning with people kicking the old way of doing things out and not only living more fulfilling lives but also killing it in the market place. Look at Steve Jobs at Apple or Blake Mycoskie and Toms shoes company for example.

The great news about this new era is that everyone now starts on an even playing field. It no longer matters who you know. You no longer have to wait on someone to pick you. Now the opportunity that we have is to pick ourselves. We have the opportunity here to connect with one another and make a difference in the lives around us if we are willing to put in the emotional labor of making our WHY about someone other than ourselves.

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Why do cheap hotels offer free wifi and why do expensive hotels charge you for it?

Why do cheap hotels offer free wifi and why do expensive hotels charge you for it?

If I build a hotel just to earn a profit then it would only make since to hire cheap labor so that I can turn a greater profit. And because everyone loves New the business will run well for a while. But after a while workers start reflecting their leader and only work to earn a check and as a result service sucks. Which leads to less people coming back. And if service gets to bad then everyone shares how bad their experience was which means even less people show up. Then you have to find a way to get new people in the doors so that you can stay open. Result….

On the other hand if I see a need for a hotel and want to serve the people by providing a great hotel with a great staff that gets paid what they are worth. Then they make sure people have a great experience. Those people will then share how great their experience was and the hotel will always stay full. No matter what price you charge. And if you offer wifi it will be the best wifi on the market, that’s what your customers expect and what you want to give them. So you can charge for it or make it free. It’s really up to you.

It’s nice to throw something in for free because you can and you want to. It’s not so nice when you feel you have to throw something in for free to make up for poor quality or service.

Are you offering free wifi? Why?

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